I joined a carpentry workshop in 2015 with zero knowledge of how to operate all those machineries and tools. I really appreciated that the tutor walk me through most of the common tools there so that I can follow exactly what he did to get started. They also show me videos of bad examples that what would’ve happen had it not operated right, giving me awareness that my life could’ve been in danger. That was a great training.

Leadership to me is another type of skill like carpentry that we can learn and master. It’s not about machine but understanding of human being, listening to them and motivate them to be better version of themselves.

How are we supposed to be a great leader if nobody show us how?

Unfortunately it happens everywhere. In corporate, individual contributor is “promoted” to manager (or a leadership role) with little guidance but is expected to perform well. In school, kids are taught to follow the rules but are expected to take lead in their life when they grow up. In family, arguing  emotionally is considered “normal” because that’s what they learned about dealing with conflict.