ISFJ Personality Type Advice - 0098 from the Personality Hacker Podcast.
- ISFJ's want to create great experiences for people.
- ISFJ's want to be above reproach, a defensive position at times.
- Assertiveness is kind hard for ISFJ's.
This image is of the Car Model for ISFJ's. (source: Personality Hacker)
Driving Process: is Introverted Sensing — Memory.
- My senses gather in a ton of information, and then processing it inside of myself. Almost in a post-processing way.
- Processing usually happens after the fact, not necessarily in the moment. (i.e. Thinking out loud is hard.)
- Opened to new information, as long as they don't feel threatened. New things can be very overwhelming if they do not feel safe to consider and explore it.
- Introverted Sensing seems very much like mindfulness.
- It's hard to have so much data that's coming in and then having to post-process it. The way ISFJ's tend to solve that is with templates and categories of how we see things to easily sift through the info.
Co-Pilot: is Extraverted Feeling — Harmony.
- ISTJ's tend to become expert matters at things and processes, while ISFJ's tend to become experts of the people in their lives.
- Sensitive people dynamics. Wanting to keep morale up. How do I show up in a way that creates harmony for the people?
- Becomes very aware of emotions of close friends and family and tend to deeply feel those emotions.
- Can end up people pleasing because you focused so much on wanting harmony, and end up not meeting your own needs, eventually leading to burnout and depression.
- My needs are important and I need to attend to those as well. Unfortunately had to find that out the hard way due to health issues, but thank God for those warning signals!
- Development Opportunity: Create good boundaries for yourself, so that you do not spread yourself thin.
- ISFJ's tend to struggle with perfectionism, because sometimes you feel like other people are dependent on you for a great experience. Woah…
- Truth: I cannot control everyone's happiness. I cannot meet everyone's needs. I am not SuperMan, nor Jesus.
- Truth: I'm not responsible to make sure everyone has a good time.
Passenger: is Introverted Thinking — Accuracy. (10yo development)
- Metrics, data, and information void of human deep connection can be very easy for an ISFJ to manage, process, and articulate. It becomes problematic when people are involved...
- The perfectionistic thinking nature appears when trying to meet the needs of people, but using your 10yo process to fix the situation, which doesn't include much harmony. Then we could try to over-control people or situations. Perfectionism typically appears here.
- Optimizing experiences while steamrolling over those we're trying to create a great environment for. Turns the ISFJ to become defensive.
- This process can be good with things like budgeting, digital grocery shopping, trip scheduling (not necessarily planning).
- Accuracy is meant to support the harmony process. If you skip it, then you'll see perfectionism and hurt the people you want to love the most.
- You have to know your stuff in order to give people an optimal experience and in order to teach other people.
Passenger: is Extraverted Intuition — Exploration. (3yo development)
- Only works well when feels psychologically safe. Exploratory and creative.
- Utilizing this during times of stress can instead be impulsive versus thoughtful.
- In stress and fears, this process can intensify fears.
- In health, this process can show my fun side in the new.
I learn more about my personality wiring, so that I can grow in my God-given strengths, weaknesses, as well as find healing.
— from Cam Pak, a growing ISFJ