As Omarchy was taking off this summer, and thousands of happy users started expressing their delight with the system, I kept waiting for the universe to balance the scales of passion. Nothing of note in this world is allowed to succeed without spawning a counteracting force of haters. And now they're finally here.
The same happened twenty years ago with Ruby on Rails, but back then I still thought you could argue your way to understanding. That if you just made a logical case to counter whatever objections were raised, you'd be able to persuade most haters to change their perspective. How naive.
It was Kathy Sierra who changed my perspective on this. From being annoyed by straw men and non sequiturs to accepting them and the haters as a natural consequence of success. That if you want people to love your creation, you have to accept the opposing force. Yin and yang.
Here's how Kathy presented the choice:
It's safe there in the gray middle. Nobody is mad at you, nobody is making any bad-faith arguments, but also, nobody cares. Lots of work exists in this zone. And that's fine. We don't need every project to reach the moon! But when escape velocity is achieved, you can't avoid drawing energy from both sides.
All this isn't to say that all objections, skepticism, or criticisms come from haters. Far from it. But once sufficient success is secured, a large portion will. It's just that kind of planet, as Jim Rohn would say.
The trick is to see this in aggregate as a necessary milestone. One that's even worth celebrating! Have you even made something worth cheering for, if there isn't a contingent there to boo at it too? Probably not.
So embrace the boos as you embrace the cheers. They come as a pair.