We are in a perfect prime. Only one in a lifetime. 45x45 = 2025. Can you learn to have fun while you work so hard. People are lacking so much fun, playfulness, and adventure. We are in a crisis of fun. This is going to be a year of something in your life. A year of ____________ for you.
A year of TRANSFORMATION for me.
This is a year of bold moves. For the last few yrs so many people bought into this idea of tiny little increments, wait-and-see, small steps mindset. That's fine we all need some sort of ritual and routine and core habits that keep us progressing steadily. If you have great core habits but never have bold moves you fall into stagnancy and miss.
Bigger moves, bigger achievements, greater moves.
4 Life Stages you may find yourself in and 4 breakthroughs.
Very few people do disciplined self-improvement. Why is it those of us endowed with the heart of a lion are content to live as mice? Why do we play smaller than we are?
Remember the metaphor of the park and the chessboard. Ruminating vs what's the next move. We want to find out the cause and have all the meaning of what your life is, procrastinate, etc. Your life is what it is TODAY. You can have hope there but you need to meet reality where it is with yourself, your family, and where everything is in your life. Life doesn't start until you make a move. This year has to be those moves. No delays, no procrastination.
What major moves are you going to make this year? What minor ones? So you can move the board forward. This is a conscious choice.
Make the next right action of integrity. What the next moves of integrity, conviction, and progress that will advance your life.
Life a life that is passionate and fun.
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A year of ALIVENESS
4 Life Stages - These are not always sequential.
1. Mimicry and belonging. This is the baby stage. You are copying voice and tonality, moves, facial expressions, copying everything you're exposed to. Every child wants to feel like they belong to the family. One constant in the universe is actually difference. Your matter might be similar but you are different. Some adults are still in this stage. They are unsure of who they were so they tried to copy others and fit in to be accepted. Every effort is to become other people to fit in with others. That is childhood development not adult. You become everyone else's wills. You wake up and see 'who's life am I living?' Some great breakthroughs come at this point to develop their own sense of self.
2. Rebellion and individualism. We've copied everyone and did what they said and then teenager stage hits. They can be tired of belonging and want their full independence. You rebel against the system and the parents. You need a major reset and you want to find your own way. You stop sharing as much with them even those you love because you're trying to find what's true inside yourself now. A lot of people's rebellion is science. There is a reason your teen locks themselves inside their room. You determine you don't want to be like that. Lots of people don't know what to do at this stage. They don't know how to share or shape it. There's no clarity here. They know there is independence here but they don't know how to do it. They know there is personal freedom here but unsure how to find it. That independence can erode and become bitterness. This can keep you stuck into your older adult years.
3. Rhythm and hustle. Motherhood with the kids, grocery shopping, you got the job, you get a busyness and rhythm going always trying to keep up. You know what to do, which kid goes to each school, you always feel like being behind. The avg American is having 6 hrs of blind consumption everyday between social media and TV. How do we have the time? Only 1-2 hrs a day is 30-40hrs a month. A lot of that time we blame distraction but truth is that is BOREDOM. There's no internal motivation or conviction. This can go on for decades.
4. Renewal and leadership. You can also use reinvention. Every week there is a process of renewing our physical, mental and spiritual systems. There is a part of self-leadership and also social side leadership. The diff between you and the AI that can replace you is your creative leadership, to have vision, and compel yourself in that direction. A lot of people can't lead themselves to change a habit, not to mention shift something at work. Can you lead, influence, and charge? It's not like what yu're hustling toards is wrong, it's that the way you sought and stove towards them feels wrong. You have to learn how to FEEL THE DAY. To get in touch with the energy again. When life is so crazy and the world is divisiveness you rebelled against the world and went inside so you don't feel anything on the outside. You go inside, protect yourself. You're in protection mode not presence mode. You can't FEEL LIFE in protection mode. The blocks may not be the things they are doing but how they are experiencing. It's a very disconcerting reality. THIS IS THE YEAR I OPEN AGAIN. I know you went inside to protect yourself and because you hate the vitriol outside but you can't feel. You need to be open to learn and develop again. We are in a crisis of leadership. We are not having the leadership of character. People have high ambitions for money but not so much for character. What is external and beautiful and good. We are in consciousness with the divine energies around us and in leadership.
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4 Big Breakthroughs
What were the last two big breakthroughs you had in your life? These are the 4 big ones seen after 16 years
1. ALIGNED AMBITIONS
A lot of people their ambitions year after year and external thing like status, power, money, market share. But most don't meet this goal and they're not sure why. Very few are after MAGIC SHARE. Where each day or each week there is a sense of awe and appreciation. Because you are on your right path so the right people and things and doors come into your life. You almost feel like you're guided or called and it can be surprising. You meet better and better people and more and more opportunity to where you may have to say no. There is something the 'universe' seems to sense about that. You feel it, you sense it, you acknowledge you are doing the right thing. When someone enjoys a gift you want to give them more. People can have house, car, promotions, but their ambition isn't aligned to a path so they are still all over the place hunting and scavenging all day long because they never aligned their ambitions to something that is internal and something important to them.
What is an aligned ambitions?
- Character: Who you are becoming; MORE, DEEPER. If I don't have intention for who I'm becoming. Faith, self-conscious, respect of myself and others, trust, femininity, better role model. Very few people say this to themselves. Being a good role model used to be standard, an expectation. Your breakthrough is the decision to become more doing it true to who you are; the best spirit of who you are. Something internal that is your gift, calling, divinity. Open it up and AMPLIFY it this year to live aligned with the true nature of who you really are. You haven't even touched your destiny yet. You can't fathom it. This year can be one you can't even imagine if you can tap into the MORE. It starts with character. Stop living like you're a decade ago. Your capacity to love and give. We need positive lights right now. Turning it around is an inspirational light to others and to yourself. It's not about are you enough. You don't even know your potential or what you are apart of. You're tapping the brakes at 10pm but you're driving a Formula F1 car that can go 200mph easily! You can become that can handle anything thrown your way.
- Competence: You have to become more capable. Teach yourself wealth, how to work out, how to eat, read books on parenting, read books, try more, ask more. Determine to develop mastery there. Nothing you do is easy the first time. That's hard, that's unknown, I don't get it. Does it match for where I wanna go or who I want to become? Yes, well I BETTER LEARN IT! Learning is not about consumption. Learning is taking an idea into initiative to trigger a feedback look. There is no learning without motion, without implementation. Competence is something of an action not intellectual. Wisdom is different than ideas. You take the information and values and employ them. You live wise, not just think. Delaying and procrastination the universe is saying oh I guess she doesn't like it, she doesn't want it.
- Contribution: I know what I'm going to contribute and how often. I'm going to create original weekly longform content. What is the unique contribution you want to make at work, in your industry, congregation, community, school. Without high intention you're doing busywork but not YOUR LIFE'S WORK. This year you shift bodly into your life's work. Whatever busy is have high intention for what the contribution is. Everyone can do the same task but when you get a great chef they thought through how do they do it and you will get their unique take and taste is their aligned ambition. When you see a unique speaker or teacher or pastor, the way they share is unique to them. Maybe it's not the best, but it's MINE. Are you doing life your way? Contributions uniquely your way is aligned ambition. There is art in your intention. These things will make you feel ALIVE.
WAY MORE PRESENCE
- Connection: Get out of your head and off your phone and be with people. Be fun, playful, flirty, joyful, renew. People can go out with their friends and not even be with their friends. So many people don't know how to have fun. Did you know people are fun? There can be a childlike presence and playfulness. You can have renewing energy with other people. When people get to the end of their life they talk about their relationships. Just because you didn't have it 7 moves ago, you don't get to blame anymore as an adult that is conscious and aware as an excuse. You can blame them but it will get you no where but bitterness. Who is in your life? Love on them and put good energy and affection there. When you can exude positive energy around people that are pessimistic people that don't like you. They don't like you and they're not going to remember later. You may be the lighthouse in their dark life that can make them think they want joy again. People forget they can have fun.
2. HIGH AGENCY: Equals TAKING INITIATIVE. Intention is a form of ambition but ACTION THIS YEAR. To be a person of high personal responsibility that takes assertiveness seriously. You have something powerful within you to assert yourself into the world. That's the stuff of real courage. When you assert yourself in different situations that's powerful. Courage, asserting yourself when it's not safe nor comfortable. Not worrying about do I feel perfect but can I do something about this even if it feels weird or awful. Take initiative to learn the thing and DO THE THING. Take command of your life, being in a forward-lean, back in motion, making bold moves, doing the hard things. That gives you the potential of having what you want. God has a lot of will and faith for me. I can feel all of that and choose not to do it. I believe I can hear a calling and resist against it for years even though he's opening doors and cheering me on. I'VE GOT TO PARTICIPATE. You've been fighting your greatness for a really long time. You've been your own worst enemy. You've got to get back in the arena, run that extra mile, give that extra thing. Our world is so trapped in beliefs about comfort, safety, and blame on others instead of hey DID YOU DO THE THING? If not DON'T BLAME! Don't sit and think about it. Don't ask anyone else. See the board AND MAKE THE MOVE!
3. HIGH CONVICTION: The first part is the answer to a What If question or Expectancy, what you expect will happen. Some people have high agency but they lack conviction. Your brain asks what if I do this, how will it turn out. What if it turns out positive, or what if it turns out negative. This is the foundation of conviction. I expect it to turn out positive. What if this is the breakthrough, what if she says yes, what if I get that first sale, what if I do this and it turns it all around? Most people lack conviction because they have a negative foundation. What if they let me down, what if I fail, all of the expectancy is negative. Why try and why not just stay home. Why give anything of myself if I believe it will turn out bad. Their mindset is negative. They are not feeding their brain with personal development and positivity. Most people don't have goodness in their ears enough to help them. They're consuming interesting convos but no training or rewiring or negative news. If I expect things to be good because I hear that everyday that helps. Intensity and urgency is needed! Most people don't have urgency because they don't have any accountability. Your brain didn't expect you to be a person of character to do what you said. If I don't have to follow through on what I say, what's so urgent. If you don't give yourself deadlines don't be shocked you're not driven. It feels like pressure we need the kinds of pressure that develop your character. You need to give yourself that kind of urgency. That kind of pressure creates diamonds. If not you will be a lump of coal all their lives hoping some external thing will zap them and give it to them to create the diamond. NO you have to create this yourself.
4. COMMUNITY: You've got to get around weapons again. You've got to find people in your life that are weapons. They are revved up and ambitions and they see something in your. Whether a boss at work, mentor, friend, role model, someone that shifts you or lights you on fire. Who are these people in your life and what is it about them that fires you up? What did they do to light that fire in you? Did they say something to you, push you, challenge you, teach you, expect something from you? What was that person like? Do you have only maybe 1 or 2 people? Most may only have 1,2,3,4 people but they are 50 or 60 yrs old. You are architecting your community and they are either pushing you to your greatest potential or they are loving to see you comfortable and are ok with blaming. You need to have 5 people minimum that expect something from you, drive you, lift you up. Get some volume back in that department for you. Who is checking in on you? If few or no one is that can bum you out or you can go lesson learned, I need to go create that. THAT'S MY JOB! I need to go forge relationships with people that check up on me. I lack that, go learn and get it. That's the high agency part. Pay for them, join the group, whatever you need to do. You might not have them now but know it's important and go find them. If expectations exhaust you then you're in the wrong mindset. They are called standards and they make you better even if they don't all feel good. These are not critics not doing things but those who believe in you. They expect you to be a role model. Striving can be tiring but you know what's more tiring is boredom, non-contributing, non-aligned, non-striving, lack of potential life. CHOOSE YOUR HARD. I'll take the positive and hard!
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4 BLOCKS
You need to come back into the F.O.L.D. of life.
1. FAITH: They have lost their faith in God, or themselves, or their marriage, or the future. People think that if they have more faith they would have higher conviction. There is always going to be doubt in the presence of doubt. Don't get tripped by the doubt. Doubt is a key to learn and have faith. People expect there will be doubt and you have to have faith that things are lining up that will serve and help you. This goes back to high agency. A lot of people can't see beyond themselves so it's doubt there so it's hard to have faith. It's almost always hard to have faith unless you teach yourself it's easy to have doubt. DOUT IS REALLY ISSUES AND IMPLIES THE EXISTENCE OF DOUBT. IF I CAN EASILY HAVE THE DOUBT I CAN EASILY HAVE THE FAITH. However it turns out there will be doubt. You make it to the top of the mountain you will say what's next I'm not sure, that's doubt. Why not have faith that it's going to turn out. What does being realistic mean? We know very little about the universe. There is an energy and force out there that is beyond the little things we can see. Faithful effort and faithful living makes things easier. Even if you don't have a lot of faith be around people that have belief even if you're not completely aligned with what they believe in. Go for 6 weeks just to be around people that have faith. When you increase faith you increase forward momentum. You have to BELIEVE AGAIN. The expectancy is there, the conviction comes back, you gain momentum.
2. OPTIMISTIC CONVERSATION: Get a life coach, hang out with positive friends. Not the same as just optimism. They are not in conversation that is optimistic, so the pessimism takes them over. Communication is so central and important. If we are not communicating we don't believe. So many people do not have conversations of faith and optimism. If you are having conversations about things that are happening a year out is a key. Most are having task conversations, what are we gonna do today or this week, tasks. You don't have a vision for the future so no wonder there is no vision and faith. When people get detached from a compelling future they lose their agency and ambition because they are stuck in the mundane. If we can't see or talk about a different future it is daily tasks and boring.
3. LOVE AGAIN: Increase the love with kids, family, spouse, friends, sense of heart in life, increase generosity. One thing that switched his clients back on was having AFFECTION back in their lives again. There is no active affection. Have a job, don't love. Have a spouse, don't love them. Teach yourself to bring in love into the conversation. True, active love. Not I have to do it. You didn't get tired of your life you just stopped pouring love into it. You got hurt, built up a wall, and barely eek out love anymore. Think about love. There are two paths, one is of love and one is hesitation or fear. Love is high agency, high character, high conviction, high community. Come to the conversation of 5 emotions that you put into or embue towards over. Don't hope you feel love or joy, put it out there. If you hope to receive it, give it. Your entire face changes. The client got out of their head and got into their life. Generating the love and faith in others is what creates the renewal in your life, leadership, and role model in your life. Think about love not as having it but as GENERATING it. Willfully generate the emotion of love towards at least one person every week. Another level of presence of love that you will give and generate towards a person. What if they reject us? We shut down love over rejection but then we don't feel and the divine energy gets shut down. Keep generating if everyone is not a love bug like you. From this one activity this client's whole life changed. Intentional AFFECTIONATE LIVING. Give yourself that gift by giving it to others. Stop protecting yourself so much the real expansiveness of life will happen through this. You won't regret more achievements you will regret being shut down of affection most your life.
4. DETERMINED WILL: Personal will and effort, daily discipline to do the thing even if it's hard. I'm going to will myself to do the thing even if it's hard. Not having discipline is handing over your personal power. Your job is to develop these things and be excited about the journey. I can't wait to see how I can bounce back from hardship, deal with challenges with a good attitude, I know hardship is coming. I am determined to summon the best of who I am to show up not because life demands it of you but because you're excited about the growth journey. I'm excited to see how far I can take this.
5 S's to set high perfance goals and achieve
Every day listen to daily fire and start scoring your day. You can achieve goals but if there is no score or momentum it will be hard to lean how to achieve high achievement goals.
1. SCENE: Never have a goal, idea, dream without a visual SCENE OF VICTORY. Have a compelling movie of victory of that goal. Close your eyes, what does that look like. Show me the scene of you showing up to the house with your family and the realtor hands you the keys. You need to be back in the moving again, you're detached. Be the director and create the scene. Visualization is a skill. Be responsible. Teach yourself to do the things to develop your life. Lay awake in bed and see the things. See it, sense it, watch that movie. Visualize yourself standing on stages speaking in front of thousands of people. You've gotta have willingness to grow into your scene. It's ok if it makes you nervous and you can't see the whole things. Don't set the goal, see the scene.
2. STRATEGY: What are you going to do to manifest that victorious scene? If you don't know what to do then learn the strategy the how to get there. Listen to the podcast, read the book, ask the questions, how did they do it. When you come in with a new strategy you get better results. Most people aren't achieving more because they have the wrong strategy. It goes from a resolution to real results. Your job is to get the strategies that lead to success.
3. TACTICAL STEPS: What are the tactical steps and milestones that will get you to the scene. From do online marketing to the steps like build newsletter, send sales email, etc. The strategy is eat better and work out more but the steps are eat this on this schedule, do these workouts on this schedule. There is nothing you want to do that you can't find the steps for somewhere. Watch a video, read a book.
4. SCHEDULE: You have to give yourself HARD DEADLINES. More important is the deadline. All of your goals are only wishes without a deadline. The most important thing you can give yourselves for your goals is urgency and there is no urgency without a deadline. You've got to up the pressure on your goals or otherwise they are ideas. Many of you have dreams with no deadlines. You get really motivated when you get things accomplished. When you miss a deadline you get discouraged. MAKE THE DEADLINES HARD. If you put the deadline out too far you will always feel the time with distraction. Rather feel pressure to get it done then distraction to get it someday. You can handle more pressure you just don't know. You learn to deal with the pressure and you get better as life gets harder. Open your calendar and see what your goals and milestones are and each one needs a scene, needs a strategy, needs the steps, has a schedule. Most breakthrough is when their schedule develops into a rhythm or routine. You feel progress again, momentum. You won't have progress without a schedule.
5. SOCIAL SUPPORT: You've gotta construct that community for the specific scene, strategy, goal you have. Who will believe in this vision with me and strive with me and keep me accountable? If you can socialize your learning and striving you grow more. When you're at a live event or have a team, people supporting them go further. The 10 people around your goals and dreams to be so dialed in and clear with you. Make this year a year of clear bold moves and you need support. Go get 1 person, then 2, then 3. Brendan has 50 people dialed in.
A year of TRANSFORMATION for me.
This is a year of bold moves. For the last few yrs so many people bought into this idea of tiny little increments, wait-and-see, small steps mindset. That's fine we all need some sort of ritual and routine and core habits that keep us progressing steadily. If you have great core habits but never have bold moves you fall into stagnancy and miss.
Bigger moves, bigger achievements, greater moves.
4 Life Stages you may find yourself in and 4 breakthroughs.
Very few people do disciplined self-improvement. Why is it those of us endowed with the heart of a lion are content to live as mice? Why do we play smaller than we are?
Remember the metaphor of the park and the chessboard. Ruminating vs what's the next move. We want to find out the cause and have all the meaning of what your life is, procrastinate, etc. Your life is what it is TODAY. You can have hope there but you need to meet reality where it is with yourself, your family, and where everything is in your life. Life doesn't start until you make a move. This year has to be those moves. No delays, no procrastination.
What major moves are you going to make this year? What minor ones? So you can move the board forward. This is a conscious choice.
Make the next right action of integrity. What the next moves of integrity, conviction, and progress that will advance your life.
Life a life that is passionate and fun.
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A year of ALIVENESS
4 Life Stages - These are not always sequential.
1. Mimicry and belonging. This is the baby stage. You are copying voice and tonality, moves, facial expressions, copying everything you're exposed to. Every child wants to feel like they belong to the family. One constant in the universe is actually difference. Your matter might be similar but you are different. Some adults are still in this stage. They are unsure of who they were so they tried to copy others and fit in to be accepted. Every effort is to become other people to fit in with others. That is childhood development not adult. You become everyone else's wills. You wake up and see 'who's life am I living?' Some great breakthroughs come at this point to develop their own sense of self.
2. Rebellion and individualism. We've copied everyone and did what they said and then teenager stage hits. They can be tired of belonging and want their full independence. You rebel against the system and the parents. You need a major reset and you want to find your own way. You stop sharing as much with them even those you love because you're trying to find what's true inside yourself now. A lot of people's rebellion is science. There is a reason your teen locks themselves inside their room. You determine you don't want to be like that. Lots of people don't know what to do at this stage. They don't know how to share or shape it. There's no clarity here. They know there is independence here but they don't know how to do it. They know there is personal freedom here but unsure how to find it. That independence can erode and become bitterness. This can keep you stuck into your older adult years.
3. Rhythm and hustle. Motherhood with the kids, grocery shopping, you got the job, you get a busyness and rhythm going always trying to keep up. You know what to do, which kid goes to each school, you always feel like being behind. The avg American is having 6 hrs of blind consumption everyday between social media and TV. How do we have the time? Only 1-2 hrs a day is 30-40hrs a month. A lot of that time we blame distraction but truth is that is BOREDOM. There's no internal motivation or conviction. This can go on for decades.
4. Renewal and leadership. You can also use reinvention. Every week there is a process of renewing our physical, mental and spiritual systems. There is a part of self-leadership and also social side leadership. The diff between you and the AI that can replace you is your creative leadership, to have vision, and compel yourself in that direction. A lot of people can't lead themselves to change a habit, not to mention shift something at work. Can you lead, influence, and charge? It's not like what yu're hustling toards is wrong, it's that the way you sought and stove towards them feels wrong. You have to learn how to FEEL THE DAY. To get in touch with the energy again. When life is so crazy and the world is divisiveness you rebelled against the world and went inside so you don't feel anything on the outside. You go inside, protect yourself. You're in protection mode not presence mode. You can't FEEL LIFE in protection mode. The blocks may not be the things they are doing but how they are experiencing. It's a very disconcerting reality. THIS IS THE YEAR I OPEN AGAIN. I know you went inside to protect yourself and because you hate the vitriol outside but you can't feel. You need to be open to learn and develop again. We are in a crisis of leadership. We are not having the leadership of character. People have high ambitions for money but not so much for character. What is external and beautiful and good. We are in consciousness with the divine energies around us and in leadership.
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4 Big Breakthroughs
What were the last two big breakthroughs you had in your life? These are the 4 big ones seen after 16 years
1. ALIGNED AMBITIONS
A lot of people their ambitions year after year and external thing like status, power, money, market share. But most don't meet this goal and they're not sure why. Very few are after MAGIC SHARE. Where each day or each week there is a sense of awe and appreciation. Because you are on your right path so the right people and things and doors come into your life. You almost feel like you're guided or called and it can be surprising. You meet better and better people and more and more opportunity to where you may have to say no. There is something the 'universe' seems to sense about that. You feel it, you sense it, you acknowledge you are doing the right thing. When someone enjoys a gift you want to give them more. People can have house, car, promotions, but their ambition isn't aligned to a path so they are still all over the place hunting and scavenging all day long because they never aligned their ambitions to something that is internal and something important to them.
What is an aligned ambitions?
- Character: Who you are becoming; MORE, DEEPER. If I don't have intention for who I'm becoming. Faith, self-conscious, respect of myself and others, trust, femininity, better role model. Very few people say this to themselves. Being a good role model used to be standard, an expectation. Your breakthrough is the decision to become more doing it true to who you are; the best spirit of who you are. Something internal that is your gift, calling, divinity. Open it up and AMPLIFY it this year to live aligned with the true nature of who you really are. You haven't even touched your destiny yet. You can't fathom it. This year can be one you can't even imagine if you can tap into the MORE. It starts with character. Stop living like you're a decade ago. Your capacity to love and give. We need positive lights right now. Turning it around is an inspirational light to others and to yourself. It's not about are you enough. You don't even know your potential or what you are apart of. You're tapping the brakes at 10pm but you're driving a Formula F1 car that can go 200mph easily! You can become that can handle anything thrown your way.
- Competence: You have to become more capable. Teach yourself wealth, how to work out, how to eat, read books on parenting, read books, try more, ask more. Determine to develop mastery there. Nothing you do is easy the first time. That's hard, that's unknown, I don't get it. Does it match for where I wanna go or who I want to become? Yes, well I BETTER LEARN IT! Learning is not about consumption. Learning is taking an idea into initiative to trigger a feedback look. There is no learning without motion, without implementation. Competence is something of an action not intellectual. Wisdom is different than ideas. You take the information and values and employ them. You live wise, not just think. Delaying and procrastination the universe is saying oh I guess she doesn't like it, she doesn't want it.
- Contribution: I know what I'm going to contribute and how often. I'm going to create original weekly longform content. What is the unique contribution you want to make at work, in your industry, congregation, community, school. Without high intention you're doing busywork but not YOUR LIFE'S WORK. This year you shift bodly into your life's work. Whatever busy is have high intention for what the contribution is. Everyone can do the same task but when you get a great chef they thought through how do they do it and you will get their unique take and taste is their aligned ambition. When you see a unique speaker or teacher or pastor, the way they share is unique to them. Maybe it's not the best, but it's MINE. Are you doing life your way? Contributions uniquely your way is aligned ambition. There is art in your intention. These things will make you feel ALIVE.
WAY MORE PRESENCE
- Connection: Get out of your head and off your phone and be with people. Be fun, playful, flirty, joyful, renew. People can go out with their friends and not even be with their friends. So many people don't know how to have fun. Did you know people are fun? There can be a childlike presence and playfulness. You can have renewing energy with other people. When people get to the end of their life they talk about their relationships. Just because you didn't have it 7 moves ago, you don't get to blame anymore as an adult that is conscious and aware as an excuse. You can blame them but it will get you no where but bitterness. Who is in your life? Love on them and put good energy and affection there. When you can exude positive energy around people that are pessimistic people that don't like you. They don't like you and they're not going to remember later. You may be the lighthouse in their dark life that can make them think they want joy again. People forget they can have fun.
2. HIGH AGENCY: Equals TAKING INITIATIVE. Intention is a form of ambition but ACTION THIS YEAR. To be a person of high personal responsibility that takes assertiveness seriously. You have something powerful within you to assert yourself into the world. That's the stuff of real courage. When you assert yourself in different situations that's powerful. Courage, asserting yourself when it's not safe nor comfortable. Not worrying about do I feel perfect but can I do something about this even if it feels weird or awful. Take initiative to learn the thing and DO THE THING. Take command of your life, being in a forward-lean, back in motion, making bold moves, doing the hard things. That gives you the potential of having what you want. God has a lot of will and faith for me. I can feel all of that and choose not to do it. I believe I can hear a calling and resist against it for years even though he's opening doors and cheering me on. I'VE GOT TO PARTICIPATE. You've been fighting your greatness for a really long time. You've been your own worst enemy. You've got to get back in the arena, run that extra mile, give that extra thing. Our world is so trapped in beliefs about comfort, safety, and blame on others instead of hey DID YOU DO THE THING? If not DON'T BLAME! Don't sit and think about it. Don't ask anyone else. See the board AND MAKE THE MOVE!
3. HIGH CONVICTION: The first part is the answer to a What If question or Expectancy, what you expect will happen. Some people have high agency but they lack conviction. Your brain asks what if I do this, how will it turn out. What if it turns out positive, or what if it turns out negative. This is the foundation of conviction. I expect it to turn out positive. What if this is the breakthrough, what if she says yes, what if I get that first sale, what if I do this and it turns it all around? Most people lack conviction because they have a negative foundation. What if they let me down, what if I fail, all of the expectancy is negative. Why try and why not just stay home. Why give anything of myself if I believe it will turn out bad. Their mindset is negative. They are not feeding their brain with personal development and positivity. Most people don't have goodness in their ears enough to help them. They're consuming interesting convos but no training or rewiring or negative news. If I expect things to be good because I hear that everyday that helps. Intensity and urgency is needed! Most people don't have urgency because they don't have any accountability. Your brain didn't expect you to be a person of character to do what you said. If I don't have to follow through on what I say, what's so urgent. If you don't give yourself deadlines don't be shocked you're not driven. It feels like pressure we need the kinds of pressure that develop your character. You need to give yourself that kind of urgency. That kind of pressure creates diamonds. If not you will be a lump of coal all their lives hoping some external thing will zap them and give it to them to create the diamond. NO you have to create this yourself.
4. COMMUNITY: You've got to get around weapons again. You've got to find people in your life that are weapons. They are revved up and ambitions and they see something in your. Whether a boss at work, mentor, friend, role model, someone that shifts you or lights you on fire. Who are these people in your life and what is it about them that fires you up? What did they do to light that fire in you? Did they say something to you, push you, challenge you, teach you, expect something from you? What was that person like? Do you have only maybe 1 or 2 people? Most may only have 1,2,3,4 people but they are 50 or 60 yrs old. You are architecting your community and they are either pushing you to your greatest potential or they are loving to see you comfortable and are ok with blaming. You need to have 5 people minimum that expect something from you, drive you, lift you up. Get some volume back in that department for you. Who is checking in on you? If few or no one is that can bum you out or you can go lesson learned, I need to go create that. THAT'S MY JOB! I need to go forge relationships with people that check up on me. I lack that, go learn and get it. That's the high agency part. Pay for them, join the group, whatever you need to do. You might not have them now but know it's important and go find them. If expectations exhaust you then you're in the wrong mindset. They are called standards and they make you better even if they don't all feel good. These are not critics not doing things but those who believe in you. They expect you to be a role model. Striving can be tiring but you know what's more tiring is boredom, non-contributing, non-aligned, non-striving, lack of potential life. CHOOSE YOUR HARD. I'll take the positive and hard!
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4 BLOCKS
You need to come back into the F.O.L.D. of life.
1. FAITH: They have lost their faith in God, or themselves, or their marriage, or the future. People think that if they have more faith they would have higher conviction. There is always going to be doubt in the presence of doubt. Don't get tripped by the doubt. Doubt is a key to learn and have faith. People expect there will be doubt and you have to have faith that things are lining up that will serve and help you. This goes back to high agency. A lot of people can't see beyond themselves so it's doubt there so it's hard to have faith. It's almost always hard to have faith unless you teach yourself it's easy to have doubt. DOUT IS REALLY ISSUES AND IMPLIES THE EXISTENCE OF DOUBT. IF I CAN EASILY HAVE THE DOUBT I CAN EASILY HAVE THE FAITH. However it turns out there will be doubt. You make it to the top of the mountain you will say what's next I'm not sure, that's doubt. Why not have faith that it's going to turn out. What does being realistic mean? We know very little about the universe. There is an energy and force out there that is beyond the little things we can see. Faithful effort and faithful living makes things easier. Even if you don't have a lot of faith be around people that have belief even if you're not completely aligned with what they believe in. Go for 6 weeks just to be around people that have faith. When you increase faith you increase forward momentum. You have to BELIEVE AGAIN. The expectancy is there, the conviction comes back, you gain momentum.
2. OPTIMISTIC CONVERSATION: Get a life coach, hang out with positive friends. Not the same as just optimism. They are not in conversation that is optimistic, so the pessimism takes them over. Communication is so central and important. If we are not communicating we don't believe. So many people do not have conversations of faith and optimism. If you are having conversations about things that are happening a year out is a key. Most are having task conversations, what are we gonna do today or this week, tasks. You don't have a vision for the future so no wonder there is no vision and faith. When people get detached from a compelling future they lose their agency and ambition because they are stuck in the mundane. If we can't see or talk about a different future it is daily tasks and boring.
3. LOVE AGAIN: Increase the love with kids, family, spouse, friends, sense of heart in life, increase generosity. One thing that switched his clients back on was having AFFECTION back in their lives again. There is no active affection. Have a job, don't love. Have a spouse, don't love them. Teach yourself to bring in love into the conversation. True, active love. Not I have to do it. You didn't get tired of your life you just stopped pouring love into it. You got hurt, built up a wall, and barely eek out love anymore. Think about love. There are two paths, one is of love and one is hesitation or fear. Love is high agency, high character, high conviction, high community. Come to the conversation of 5 emotions that you put into or embue towards over. Don't hope you feel love or joy, put it out there. If you hope to receive it, give it. Your entire face changes. The client got out of their head and got into their life. Generating the love and faith in others is what creates the renewal in your life, leadership, and role model in your life. Think about love not as having it but as GENERATING it. Willfully generate the emotion of love towards at least one person every week. Another level of presence of love that you will give and generate towards a person. What if they reject us? We shut down love over rejection but then we don't feel and the divine energy gets shut down. Keep generating if everyone is not a love bug like you. From this one activity this client's whole life changed. Intentional AFFECTIONATE LIVING. Give yourself that gift by giving it to others. Stop protecting yourself so much the real expansiveness of life will happen through this. You won't regret more achievements you will regret being shut down of affection most your life.
4. DETERMINED WILL: Personal will and effort, daily discipline to do the thing even if it's hard. I'm going to will myself to do the thing even if it's hard. Not having discipline is handing over your personal power. Your job is to develop these things and be excited about the journey. I can't wait to see how I can bounce back from hardship, deal with challenges with a good attitude, I know hardship is coming. I am determined to summon the best of who I am to show up not because life demands it of you but because you're excited about the growth journey. I'm excited to see how far I can take this.
5 S's to set high perfance goals and achieve
Every day listen to daily fire and start scoring your day. You can achieve goals but if there is no score or momentum it will be hard to lean how to achieve high achievement goals.
1. SCENE: Never have a goal, idea, dream without a visual SCENE OF VICTORY. Have a compelling movie of victory of that goal. Close your eyes, what does that look like. Show me the scene of you showing up to the house with your family and the realtor hands you the keys. You need to be back in the moving again, you're detached. Be the director and create the scene. Visualization is a skill. Be responsible. Teach yourself to do the things to develop your life. Lay awake in bed and see the things. See it, sense it, watch that movie. Visualize yourself standing on stages speaking in front of thousands of people. You've gotta have willingness to grow into your scene. It's ok if it makes you nervous and you can't see the whole things. Don't set the goal, see the scene.
2. STRATEGY: What are you going to do to manifest that victorious scene? If you don't know what to do then learn the strategy the how to get there. Listen to the podcast, read the book, ask the questions, how did they do it. When you come in with a new strategy you get better results. Most people aren't achieving more because they have the wrong strategy. It goes from a resolution to real results. Your job is to get the strategies that lead to success.
3. TACTICAL STEPS: What are the tactical steps and milestones that will get you to the scene. From do online marketing to the steps like build newsletter, send sales email, etc. The strategy is eat better and work out more but the steps are eat this on this schedule, do these workouts on this schedule. There is nothing you want to do that you can't find the steps for somewhere. Watch a video, read a book.
4. SCHEDULE: You have to give yourself HARD DEADLINES. More important is the deadline. All of your goals are only wishes without a deadline. The most important thing you can give yourselves for your goals is urgency and there is no urgency without a deadline. You've got to up the pressure on your goals or otherwise they are ideas. Many of you have dreams with no deadlines. You get really motivated when you get things accomplished. When you miss a deadline you get discouraged. MAKE THE DEADLINES HARD. If you put the deadline out too far you will always feel the time with distraction. Rather feel pressure to get it done then distraction to get it someday. You can handle more pressure you just don't know. You learn to deal with the pressure and you get better as life gets harder. Open your calendar and see what your goals and milestones are and each one needs a scene, needs a strategy, needs the steps, has a schedule. Most breakthrough is when their schedule develops into a rhythm or routine. You feel progress again, momentum. You won't have progress without a schedule.
5. SOCIAL SUPPORT: You've gotta construct that community for the specific scene, strategy, goal you have. Who will believe in this vision with me and strive with me and keep me accountable? If you can socialize your learning and striving you grow more. When you're at a live event or have a team, people supporting them go further. The 10 people around your goals and dreams to be so dialed in and clear with you. Make this year a year of clear bold moves and you need support. Go get 1 person, then 2, then 3. Brendan has 50 people dialed in.