So I just wanted to share my story for #NationalComingOutDay ...
I make no secret to people that I'm gay, but I also try not to make it a big thing these days, I may have made it more obvious in the past. Now I'm at the delightful age of *cough* 34 I've fully come to accept myself for who I am, as a whole.
I make no secret to people that I'm gay, but I also try not to make it a big thing these days, I may have made it more obvious in the past. Now I'm at the delightful age of *cough* 34 I've fully come to accept myself for who I am, as a whole.
My Coming Out Story
When I grew up, I was really confused about who I was and what it meant. I'd been having suspect feelings about same sex relationships from when I was throughout my teens, but never knew what it meant. It wasn't until I was 17 that I finally got to meet another guy ... let's not dwell, but it felt right. I felt I could be be romantic, understand someone and love.
When I knew who I was, I told my friend, and they were supportive which is brilliant.
As I was trying to write about who I was, I wrote my thoughts and feelings in my diary on my computer. This was a really big thing for me and I was sharing my personal thoughts with myself.
But while I was out, my brother broke into my PC, it was Windows 95 so it wasn't very secure. He then told my parents and everyone else at school. It destroyed the chance for me to come out to people on my terms and about who I was.
I can safely say it caused lots of tensions and issues with my parents for years, as I'd never got to tell them who I was ... I was OUTED!
I'd barely understood who I felt I was, but then everyone else knew already before I could say.
It really affects my trust issues with people, makes me apprehensive to write stuff down and I now encrypt my disks. I don't think I can really forgive someone invading my personal space like that
When I knew who I was, I told my friend, and they were supportive which is brilliant.
As I was trying to write about who I was, I wrote my thoughts and feelings in my diary on my computer. This was a really big thing for me and I was sharing my personal thoughts with myself.
But while I was out, my brother broke into my PC, it was Windows 95 so it wasn't very secure. He then told my parents and everyone else at school. It destroyed the chance for me to come out to people on my terms and about who I was.
I can safely say it caused lots of tensions and issues with my parents for years, as I'd never got to tell them who I was ... I was OUTED!
I'd barely understood who I felt I was, but then everyone else knew already before I could say.
It really affects my trust issues with people, makes me apprehensive to write stuff down and I now encrypt my disks. I don't think I can really forgive someone invading my personal space like that
TLDR
I got outed ..My brother broke into my PC, read my personal thoughts about being gay and shared them. It really affected who I could trust.
Respect people's personal space, their thoughts and let someone come to terms with who they are, don't out them to everyone they know! Let people come out on their own terms!