Michael He

January 30, 2022

The Negativity Checking Account

Negativity functions like a checking account. 

There is a balance and you add to it. You can withdraw, but like a regular checking account the default outcome is to let the principal accumulate. Of course, you want to do the opposite. However, that takes a lot of determination and continuous efforts on your end. 

If you don't withdraw, then the amount adds up with interests (assume it's not 0.25% but higher) over time. The higher the balance, the more negative and unhappy you are. That may further add to your negativity. People do not like to be with negative people, especially those who lash out frequently. If your negativity account has too high of a balance, it becomes self-perpetuating. You are negative and make others feel negative, so they either stay away from you or give you more negativity in reciprocation. The cycle continues and it can keep going for a very long time. At a certain point, the interest you accumulate in each period will exceed your original starting point.

I do not know what happens when you get to that level, but I know the outcome will not be desirable. 

So in a sense, you not only want to withdraw your negativity cash. You want to do it quickly before the math works against you. And the hardest part is figuring out how to withdraw the negativity cash. There is no one-size-fits-all solution to this. You somehow must figure it out for yourself. 

And once you kind of know, the real hardest challenge is to consistently withdraw. The reason is sometimes your balance can shoot up quickly. Maybe your business partner backstabbed you. Maybe your significant other wants to leave you. That will overwhelm your system, so you have to do whatever it takes to make the effect temporarily. You not only need to consistently withdraw your negativity. You must be ready to withdraw a lot of it very quickly. You need to have a lot of flexibility and room for error when that happens, similar to the underground sewage system in Tokyo. 

But the question in the end comes down to you. Do you realize negativity can accumulate and bear its own offspring? Do you realize we are capable of doing harm, whether we use physical violence or not? And most importantly, what do you want to do about it? To become a rather consistently positive person, you are essentially rolling boulders across many troughs and valleys. There is the mindset or "why" questions. Then there is the "how" and "what" questions. It will be something to do for your entire life, so are you up for it?

If you think about it, negativity checking account withdrawl is universal across religions. There must be a reason why.

About Michael He

Trying to get better every single day.