We are utter a-holes to some people during our lifetimes - we are mean, tough, hard, and give some folks hell - mostly (in our heads) for the right reasons. 

But when the call comes telling us they are dead - we turn up at the funeral or write obituaries with some nice things to say. They are not always sugar-coated - we mostly mean them. We realise how those people, with all the conflict and ego taken away, were actually nice. Then we weep, we speak, we write, and in our own way say goodbye.

This is a BS way to treat people.

If you see good in people - call them and tell them now. Remove the barriers, be authentic, and let them know what you see in them. Just plain simple honest conversations. 

When we are capable of loving ourselves, we are capable of loving others. And with this, we have the ability to say some plain simple truths of goodness. This supports love. It increases respect. We may still disagree, our habits or knowledge about each other may still irritate - but plain simple truths of goodness in others make a huge difference. 

You'll be surprised how this is not a common practice. You'll be surprised how connections are all about being right about themselves, and how they list the wrong things about others.

Step back, look your friend in the eye, and speak.