I woke up feeling a bit sad today, like I do on most days. I don't know why I normally don't wake up happy and excited to take on the day, like lots of people post on social media. I have some idea about my mental state and I am getting better everyday so I am not too worried. As long as I am making a progress in right direction, it's ok, I tell myself.
Anyways I get out of bed and first thing I do is goto my daughter's bedroom and see her sleeping peacefully and then I smile, sometime I just stay for a few minutes looking at her and feeling blessed to have such a wonderful daughter. Soon she wakes up and demands a long hug. I do some house chores, while she gets ready for the school. I see her off at the bus stop, then I leave for my morning run. By the time I have finished my run, my mood has improved a lot. Even if I don't experience a high after every run, all that Endorphin release is more than enough to put me in a great mood on most days.
Then I drive back to my house, listening to some good music in my car. After breakfast and shower, I check my work chats and mails and try to respond quickly when I can from my phone. When I can help a client or a colleague quickly, that also becomes a source of little happiness. Throughout the day, I try to contribute by doing a good job with projects I am working on for my client. I focus on making their business more efficient using the software tools and websites I manage. Work is satisfying as well.
I take coffee breaks, standing outside looking at the beautiful clear sky these days. It's really good weather now to be outside. I look at the birds doing their thing in the common garden area of the apartment complex I live in. I can hear those birds specially sunbirds, tailorbirds and kingfishers throughout the day even while working. Nothing like some nature's music in the background, while you work from your home.
Daughter comes back from school and after a quick catch up with her, I continue working for some more time. That's a typical day for me. Nothing extra ordinary, nothing special but still all those little moments which I cherish. And so I end most days feeling satisfied and happy.
Also I read somewhere and it really makes sense that we should not actually chase happiness and we should not have this utopian belief that purpose of life is to be happy. One doesn't need to be happy everyday, one doesn't need to be happy always. Purpose of life is just to have some purpose, keep yourself busy, work towards some goal, improve yourself, make yourself useful. Help others when you can. Contribute in whatever way you can and do whatever makes you feel useful. I mean ofcourse have this positive mindset and enjoy all those little moments but if you aren't feeling happy some days, that's perfectly ok and not just ok, it's pretty normal. No one in this world is happy all the time. We can choose to be happy and satisfied most of the time of-course, but just don't have this crazy idea about being happy always.
Be Happy :-)
Sachin
About Sachin Palewar
A simple, no-nonsense, fair-minded and self-made(without any formal education) techie, running a small IT consultancy business. Love riding bike, running, birding and outdoors in general. Am @palewar on Twitter and can be reached at sachin@hey.com.