I just listened to a fantastic episode from Modern Wisdom with Konstantin Kissin as the guest in the studio with Chris Williamson. It was so dense and filled with insight that I am left a little out of breath. My mind is trying to grasp onto strings of ideas and thoughts. Stuff I want to remember, new things I wish to try, and write about.
This is why I am on my second post of the day. The irony is that my mind is so scattered that I find it hard to focus on a particular subject. What Konstantin mentioned in the end on fatherhood was quite personal and very insightful. What stood out in particular to me was his thoughts on your relationship with your parents.
He believes that you cannot be at peace with yourself before you forgive you parents. This really hits home for me for a number of reasons. As soon as I heard it, I felt like I knew what he was talking about. My older sister has a strained relationship with our mother, and I am sure it stems from her resentment towards our mother for neglect and other things in her childhood (as I understand it).
Secondly, I vividly remember a conversation with my mother many years ago where I asked her to apologize for things that I remember in my childhood. I did not know it at the time, but it enabled me to forgive her for everything (true or not), and move on in my life. Ever since, our relationship has been great, and my life has only gotten better.
I say 'true or not', because in the end, it is what I remember, and how I saw things. This may have been distorted by time, bias, and and other factors. Never the less, what was important to me, was that my mother acted exaclty as I needed her to, to heal any wounds. Regardless of what she thought or remembered. She was there for me, and told me what I needed ti hear.
I have silently forgiven my father as well. This took longer, and required me to become a father, before understanding and ultimately relating to him better. He is also a strong foundation that I can rely on for many things.
They both love me unconditionally, and is one of the reasons for my success in life.
- Trolz
This is why I am on my second post of the day. The irony is that my mind is so scattered that I find it hard to focus on a particular subject. What Konstantin mentioned in the end on fatherhood was quite personal and very insightful. What stood out in particular to me was his thoughts on your relationship with your parents.
He believes that you cannot be at peace with yourself before you forgive you parents. This really hits home for me for a number of reasons. As soon as I heard it, I felt like I knew what he was talking about. My older sister has a strained relationship with our mother, and I am sure it stems from her resentment towards our mother for neglect and other things in her childhood (as I understand it).
Secondly, I vividly remember a conversation with my mother many years ago where I asked her to apologize for things that I remember in my childhood. I did not know it at the time, but it enabled me to forgive her for everything (true or not), and move on in my life. Ever since, our relationship has been great, and my life has only gotten better.
I say 'true or not', because in the end, it is what I remember, and how I saw things. This may have been distorted by time, bias, and and other factors. Never the less, what was important to me, was that my mother acted exaclty as I needed her to, to heal any wounds. Regardless of what she thought or remembered. She was there for me, and told me what I needed ti hear.
I have silently forgiven my father as well. This took longer, and required me to become a father, before understanding and ultimately relating to him better. He is also a strong foundation that I can rely on for many things.
They both love me unconditionally, and is one of the reasons for my success in life.
- Trolz