William Liao

April 2, 2022

the courage to be disliked

The Courage to be Disliked by Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi is one of the best books… that I’ve yet to read. 

Because the punchline (at least one of them) is in the title. 

When you live to please others, they can run your life. 

Lifetimes have been spent doing this. 

And when someone happens to not like you, it’s easy to wonder if there’s something wrong with you. 

This is where the courage to be disliked comes in. And yes, it does take a *ton* of courage. 

But on the other side is a version of reality where you learn to show up as yourself, as your thoughts, as your interests, as your desires, as your idiosyncracies…instead of some version of you that you think someone is going to approve of. 

And that reality is freakin’ awesome. 

Be kind, but don’t punish yourself…for being yourself. 

Your happiness and your character are not worth sacrificing for an opinion.