Passing comment or opinion on the actions, appearance or words of another person creates distance. In your mind, it puts you above them. You feel you have a right to be heard. It creates disdain and superiority.

 

On a long enough timeframe, separation leads to loneliness. Loneliness leads to suffering. Sooner or later, someone will need to fit a very specific set of criteria in order for you to accept them as an equal. Maybe there will be no one left who fits your standards.

 

A better policy is non-judgment. Holding yourself to high benchmarks but forgiving others. Rooting for them. Giving the benefit of the doubt. Judgment leads to separation which leads to loneliness and suffering. Accept and unite for happiness.