It's not your job to make other people happy, it's your job to make yourself happy.

This is the lesson that I had to learn from my first marriage - the core mistake that I made because nobody had taught me this lesson or what it actually means. It took me over a decade to learn this, and I hope to figure out how to teach you before you need it.

If you're with someone who's inherently unhappy, is holding onto trauma from the past, needs you to fill a hole for them, or has wild expectations for what you should do or be...

You should not be with that person.

You will never be able to make them happy, or to give them what they want. The relationship will continue to spiral deeper and deeper into darkness.

Get out.