Most people are ruining their relationships without knowing it. They are recreating their past and projecting it onto their most precious relationships. They do this even if the past was painful. We recreate how we experienced growing up in the family we were raised in. Were you abandoned? Guess what type of partners you'll attract. We...

Most people hyper-focus on distractions and ignore intentions. They prefer the short-term, comfortable benefits of cheap dopamine over the long-term benefits intentional focus uncovers—namely, meaning and purpose. If you're interested, here's my Cold Exposure protocol to naturally enhance dopamine levels and minimize cheap dopamine. No...

Our culture encourages you to be safe, docile, distracted, comfortable, and happy through unceasing cheap dopamine. This doesn't actually produce happiness, it produces pleasure (big difference). This is the doorway to misery and destruction. I offer that aging is the aggressive pursuit of comfort. Most people prefer the comforts of ch...

Self-improvement doesn't work. Yet most people are stuck in a constant state of trying to improve themselves. The reason self-improvement has a bad rap is because it is—in part—bullshit. You can't improve yourself. At least not in the ways you've gone about doing it in the past. Why? Because you're trying to change something about your...

Men who are slowing dying inside seek—happiness. You've heard it before—most men live quiet lives of desperation. These men know they can't access meaning—they might in a job they don't like, they might be depressed, or find life to be pointless. Their main objective is happiness. The reason you struggle with finding meaning is because...

To be a father to my daughter is the greatest gift that has been bestowed upon me While also opening up my heart to love and challenge in ways I could have never imagined. Being both a son, and now a father, I see the challenges my father faced. I see how he dealt with his assignment—and how he didn’t, or couldn’t, deal with his assign...

It was 2015 and I was a scientist at UC Berkeley I regularly worked 12 hour days, had six projects I worked on all at the same time. Every time I made progress on one project, another would fail leading to more and more troubleshooting And I was growing increasingly exhausted I made little progress on all of them, but none were close t...

When I first started my coaching business, I kept falling into a motivation trap When I had clients I had energy and enthusiasm behind my sails But the moment clients stopped working with me, I made it mean something about me This led to a loss of motivation, and a loss of belief I coped by hiding from friends and family. Avoiding thei...

The year was 1996 and we lived in sunny Miami, FL. I was an energetic, scrawny 6 years old, living with my family in a two bedroom apartment in a rough part of town. I remember coming home with my parents and turning on the kitchen lights, and seeing a swarm of roaches scattering beneath our feet. Gross? Yes, but we couldn't afford any...

Like a massive ship that's now cracking and breaking in half as enormous tidal forces crash into its hull, the foundations of western civilization are disintegrating, sending its people into profound chaos and disorder. As this ship falls into the abyss below, it pulls with it anyone and anything in its proximity—downward. Sages prophe...

I was 12 years old, a 7th grader at W.R. Thomas Middle School in Miami, FL We moved around a lot when I was growing up, and on my last days of school in the prior year, I got into a fight with another boy. So, when I started 7th grade, I was on my best behavior, and looking to just fit in and get along to go along. But before I knew it...

We sometimes mimic the vices of those we admire, rather than their virtues. We see someone we resonate with and confuse “badness” as coolness, or worse—goodness. This raises the question: why be virtuous at all? We must understand that there are forces coming at us over which we have no control. These can be political, biological, psyc...

What’s it like to work with a Life Coach? Here’s my experience working with my coach, Stephen. I remember when I first started working with him—I would show up to our coaching sessions with my heart guarded as a way to mask my insecurities by putting on a facade of being a tough guy who had it all figured out. After all, I was a martia...

It was a sunny warm day in Miami, FL. I was ten years old standing in my schools pavilion in shock couldn’t believe I got my Jansport backpack from those middle schoolers who stole it I rush to open it and push aside books, and binders, and pens to find what I’ve spent the past week desperately wishing I had back I reach in and pulled ...

What does it mean to be a good parent? I don’t know the answer to this, but if I had to guess, it means parenting your children rather than turning your children into your parent. Growing up we learned to get our emotional needs met by figuring out what our parents needed. Whether mommy or daddy got upset, we attached to the subconscio...

The New Year is an opportunity for celebration and gratitude for the blessings and challenges of the year completing. These are all gifts from a Higher Power when seen from inside the spiritual context, and outside the dualistic perspective of the ego—of right/wrong, and good/bad. A truly golden opportunity for a sacred pause and refle...

What winners can teach us about ourselves The other day I was listening to an old Conor Mcgregor (former Featherweight and Lightweight Champion of the UFC) interview, and noticed something interesting. Not necessarily about McGregor himself, but about winners. All winners have one thing in common. Knowingly or Unknowingly, winners list...

Hello, dear readers! Welcome back to our newsletter. Today, we dive into a topic that often blurs the lines for many of us: the distinction between judgment and discernment. This distinction is subtle, but suuuuppppper important in our daily lives, shaping our decisions, relationships, and overall outlook. Understanding their nuances c...

To know yourself, your deepest, most profound Self—become interested in the experience of being aware. Here’s a pointer to test: look for yourself in the space between two thoughts. The more you deepen this observation, the more the presence of awareness will shine with your experience. The simple act of being aware—or, the knowing whi...

In 1954, we entered the "Age of Anxiety" according to a leading news source at the time. That was nearly seven decades ago. Anxiety levels has only continued to rise since then. Even after COVID, anxiety kept and continues to rise. The New York Times called this "the inner pandemic." When we feel anxious, it often seems impossible to c...

Self-Appreciation Practice Intro Self-Appreciation is a way of expressing recognition of your worth, value, and Gratitude—for the goodness and greatness of who you are! That way, you’ll cultivate it from within rather than from other people: the key to learning how to parent yourself. This practice is from the book: remembering the lig...

Integrity is an invitation to live an authentic life One that is in alignment with a higher calling. Why is this important? The root cause of your inability to find meaning and purpose stems from being out of integrity with your true nature. Not only that, but the psychological suffering you experience can be traced back to being out o...

Finding Freedom Most people seek what I call “freedom from...x, y and z”, or “freedom to...x, y, and z” Freedom from: their 9-5 job Freedom from: debt And, Freedom to: go on vacation...only to compulsively check their slack messages Freedom to: buy land Freedom to: go for a run in the middle of the day But, these are temporary fixes–ba...

Imagine going on a hike with an empty backpack. Every time you pass by someone on the hike, you find yourself judging them. Not only that, but each time you judge, you simultaneously pick up a rock from the ground and place it in your backpack. It just so happens that the trail you're on is a busy one, and you find yourself in a judgme...